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Crossposted from The Middle Way)
I've been so touched with all the love being shared in the Spread The Love NOW! Group Writing Project, that I felt I should share a compassionate act that happened to me recently. The Situation; I'd just gotten out of hospital and was back at the monastery, still wasn't eating, and was very dehydrated. I was constantly dizzy, but I still had my pride.
In the condition you're in, staying in a mountain cabin doesn't make any sense. Thankfully the residents know this and decide to move you into the main building. Salisha offers to drive you up to your cabin, and offers to help you pack. Reluctantly you accept the offer up to the cabin. Upon arriving you dizzily rush into your room, knowing exactly how things are and try to pack. You're unable to, you couldn't pack your stuff up. You knew what you're trying to do, but it just doesn't happening. Your dirty clothes are everywhere, sheets a mess, whole room, also a mess. What a state to be caught in.
Salisha offers a hand, again reluctantly, you accept. Continuing to try be the man, you allow her snippets of work, pretending it's all under control. She can see the truth you deny, she knows how hard this is, and how close you are to collapsing. After what feels like the longest time you give up, knowing your unable to do this.
Unable, yet pride still stands out. It was here that Salisha speaks to you. She tells you to accept her gift. She is sharing her love with you, and you are refusing to take it. She understands what's going on, she knows your not well, wants to help, wants to show her love, and constantly you deny it, pretending you're fine, when it's obvious to both, your not.
She talks of her grandfather, an amazing man, the embodiment of compassion his whole life. Near the end of his life, for the first time he was unable to look after himself and was taken to a nursing home. The self-dependant man, who's life had been nothing but compassionate, was unable to be helped. The last memories Salisha and her family have of her grandfather are that of a cranky man, unwilling to accept the love of his direct family.
This man died, they say, still earlier than he should, he gave up on his situation, the medicines didn't work, they think he didn't take them, as he didn't see his need for help.
Salisha tells me this and I collapse on the bed, cracked. Tears flow, and I understand that receiving is sometimes giving. I experience and feel compassion, having been studying Kannon for a week, working with the text for a month, I didn't understand compassion's function in my life. I am ever grateful to Salisha, and I hope to, and continue to work on my ability to receive help when it really is needed.
Real Life, Post Monastery Experience
Today, I went to the beach for the first time in 3 months. I'm usually a pretty good swimmer, and am also a surf life saver of 10+ years experience. Jumping into the water and catching a few waves in seas so big they've made news, I got tired pretty quickly. I knew I was in trouble- big waves and low energy levels. I started making my way in but was stuck in a rip, making it very difficult. A life saver came out, offering me and those around me who were also caught a ride to the shore. We all had too much pride to take the offered help. I saw my resistance, I saw my pride, and I saw Kannon shining in this woman offering me a lift back. I remembered Salisha, I called the woman over saying I'd like help please.
I easily got on the board, as I'm usually the one saving others, but not this time. We waited for a bit of a calm and caught the next wave in all the way. One fun ride and 15 seconds later, I was back on the shore, gratefully thanking the woman for her assistance and smiled. It took those who were unwilling to get a lift over 10 minutes to reach the shore. 10 minutes of struggling against help, due to pride. I am constantly thankful for the teachings I received from Kannon and Salisha. I am still working with compassion, and still working on my ability to receive.
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